The other day(this was long long ago), standing across the street, I was involved in a serious discussion about the generalities of life. My friend seemed to have given the topics a great lot of thought and put them in words too. It was not surprising to know that our wavelengths matched to a great extant as we were molded by almost the same background.
But as does happen with a lot of things, we had to differ on at least one topic and so we did. More interesting was the fact that the depth of difference was more than I thought it could have been.
The topic was the all interesting "self".
It started with ego and it ended in self. (What difference? later)
Before the realization of my thoughts let us look through his eyes.
His words with the odd change(grammatical only)-"Self confidence is unnecessary-'coz, self in itself should not be thought upon" okay more than the odd changes. But he says, if you do not see your self or in other terms you are truly selfless, then self-confidence will not even come into picture.
It feels so true. But if it is philosophies we are planning to live on, the world would have been idle and practicality would have become a distasteful slang. There are thousands of theories in both science and theology based on assumptions and so are never real and if at all they are to be absolutely real, then they would one of those undecipherable wondrous miracles that you would not want to believe in. To me his thought seems to be such a one.
God for reason unknown left the mind to stay independent of the heart. This has often lead a man into troubles unparalleled. I guess that's why matters of heart often defy logic, u see logic is for the head.
Any way this being the case with our body it is safe to assume that men are to suffer from bouts experienced between the heart and mind. The history shows heart has a better victory rate, and so the control of mind to an extent of complete selflessness does belong to theory with a big assumption. It has been the goals of saints and there penance have been tested to the limits and so goes the history.
Now am I speaking of not having that goal, wow! that would be too stupid, even for me. No, that is not what I'm hinting at. My point could be best put by the answer to the question- "what is the important requirement to achieve goals?"---------------------
Well u thought will power, a good answer. But lets get a bit more primitive, after all we still possess a lot of primitive instincts. Then I wouldn't be far off if i say "Belief"- belief in yourself. Now why is this necessary?
Why is this most important?
Man is a lazy animal.(the non lazy guys are exceptions and they need feel no insult, me included) and it is not often that he works without motivation, without drive. motivation is provided by the earthly pleasures or the glow of the goal. Now this is a factor in a mans work only when he is got the force in him to fulfil his motive-drive, yes? Where does this drive come from? Has to be with in him. Where does the motivation come from? Could be with in him or from outside. As mentioned above drive is the wheel on which motive is reached and thus the birth of a feeling inside is what makes man achieve what ever it is. It may even be the glory of selflessness. What of such feelings is important? The inborn belief that "I can achieve it", could we call this the source? which in turn translates into the confidence in the self, the feeling that it is in him to achieve the goal. Sounds logical.
It is often the foundation on which we build our work. While choosing a course, we see if we could finish it. maybe it would need hard work, but primary is the feeling that "I could do it." And so self belief becomes important even if the goal is to discard self. Now how is this possible? would not the confidence in self keep reminding of the self and thus obstruct the goal of selflessness? A valid Paradox? A superb question and if it had not graced its presence in your thoughts, read this whole thing again tomorrow when you are awake. But sticking to the topic, the answer to that would be in the answer to this question-"If you do not feel that u could achieve your goal, then would u ever achieve your goal?"
Think about it and I'm open for further discussions.
Did want to get into the topic of self confidence when I started, but it would be improper to impose burden of great lengths to a discussion. So let us see about them in an another discussion. What do u say?
Bye.
Munching the miles, the car swept
